ART OF PARENTING - by Solvendar Mr. Sukisivam
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j0F0iQdGk_4&feature=related
Tried to translate as much as possible in English
I would like to share an opinion with you. There is no guarantee that our children would accept us as good parents. Many of us as parents are not willing to accept this important truth. We must modulate our mind to accept this. There is no point in striving to enact as good parents before our children. Our objective is not to get a conduct certificate from our child. That's not why we brought them to this world and that is not why we are growing them. If we expect our children to appreciate us for everything that we do to them, then we are inviting trouble. You would probably be branded as "Bad Parents" by our children. Instead, you may want to 'suggest' and explain the advantages if your child follows your suggestion. Do not get upset if your suggestion is not taken.
The first problem most of us do as parents is 'dictate'. Dictators are hated by people which we know by real examples. There are several cases in world history in the past and present where dictators have disappeared and people have forgotten them. Are we dictators? My humble request to all parents is to not dictate to their children. The more you dictate, the more you distance yourself from your child. The child wouldn't feel empowered and they grow as dependant individuals. They stop thinking on their own and thus their creativity is crippled.
Today's education system in India is mostly marks-oriented. Children are subjected to excess mental stress and torture to score high marks in their 12th grade school examination. The rat race is geared towards seeking admission in a top-notch engineering or medical college. Their knowledge is bookish and limited. Hardly any attempt is made to enhance their IQ and intellectuality. As able and committed parents, do you want to take part in this rat race or do you want your child to get holistic knowledge of the society? Let me give the basics of art of learning. Children want to learn by themselves, but they do not want to be taught. Essentially this means, they want to learn through experiencing things. As parents, we have to find out the likes and dislikes of the child and get them experienced into what they like more.
Let me give you an incident that took place many years ago in the west. There was a child by name 'Tommy'. He was partially deaf. His teacher lost hope with him and found him no good at studies. She called his mother and told her that he is too stupid to learn and thus asked her not to send him to school henceforth. Although his mother was deeply saddened by this incident, she never lost hope. She worked day and night and self-taught Tommy. He later became an eminent scientist. He is none other than the great Thomas Alva Edison.
The art of good parenting is to unleash the true potential of your child and guide him/her to adopt the right direction helping them march towards the glory without major expectations.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j0F0iQdGk_4&feature=related
Tried to translate as much as possible in English
I would like to share an opinion with you. There is no guarantee that our children would accept us as good parents. Many of us as parents are not willing to accept this important truth. We must modulate our mind to accept this. There is no point in striving to enact as good parents before our children. Our objective is not to get a conduct certificate from our child. That's not why we brought them to this world and that is not why we are growing them. If we expect our children to appreciate us for everything that we do to them, then we are inviting trouble. You would probably be branded as "Bad Parents" by our children. Instead, you may want to 'suggest' and explain the advantages if your child follows your suggestion. Do not get upset if your suggestion is not taken.
The first problem most of us do as parents is 'dictate'. Dictators are hated by people which we know by real examples. There are several cases in world history in the past and present where dictators have disappeared and people have forgotten them. Are we dictators? My humble request to all parents is to not dictate to their children. The more you dictate, the more you distance yourself from your child. The child wouldn't feel empowered and they grow as dependant individuals. They stop thinking on their own and thus their creativity is crippled.
Today's education system in India is mostly marks-oriented. Children are subjected to excess mental stress and torture to score high marks in their 12th grade school examination. The rat race is geared towards seeking admission in a top-notch engineering or medical college. Their knowledge is bookish and limited. Hardly any attempt is made to enhance their IQ and intellectuality. As able and committed parents, do you want to take part in this rat race or do you want your child to get holistic knowledge of the society? Let me give the basics of art of learning. Children want to learn by themselves, but they do not want to be taught. Essentially this means, they want to learn through experiencing things. As parents, we have to find out the likes and dislikes of the child and get them experienced into what they like more.
Let me give you an incident that took place many years ago in the west. There was a child by name 'Tommy'. He was partially deaf. His teacher lost hope with him and found him no good at studies. She called his mother and told her that he is too stupid to learn and thus asked her not to send him to school henceforth. Although his mother was deeply saddened by this incident, she never lost hope. She worked day and night and self-taught Tommy. He later became an eminent scientist. He is none other than the great Thomas Alva Edison.
The art of good parenting is to unleash the true potential of your child and guide him/her to adopt the right direction helping them march towards the glory without major expectations.
Gone are the days when it was possible for parents and families to do things in a leisurely way...when parents nurtured kids ... programming was absent....children were left to their devices to find interesting creative ways to busy themselves....competition was not such a compulsive obsession...parenting guidance was unheard of....the heart and common sense were the governing factors....doesn't it seem weird that we have reached such a state of affairs at a time when technologically we have made such strides....
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